Using Rewards to Boost School Performance |
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Eight-year-old Christopher has never been a gifted speller, and he finds the weekly assignment of mastering spelling words both frustrating and boring. Like many kids, even though he receives the spelling assignment at the beginning of the week, Christopher waits until the last minute and then crams for the Friday quiz. Thursday evenings bring misery to the home, as Christopher's mother, Laura, nags him to study and Christopher alternates between moaning "These are too hard!" and snapping at his mother to leave him alone. Christopher's quiz grades reflect his limited, last-minute effort.
Laura has tried to reason with Christopher about developing better habits, but he has stubbornly and angrily resisted her suggestions. She feels that her son puts little effort into studying not only because he finds it boring but also because he lacks conviction that he can be successful, even with effort. In situations like this, parents often start thinking about offering incentives to help improve their children's performance. Many parents are uncertain, however, whether it is okay to "bribe" their children to do schoolwork. Common questions include "Should I offer my child cash for good report card grades?" and "What kind of success should I expect?" Based on the five tips given in the box below, here's the approach Laura takes in getting Christopher to perform better on his spelling tests. Creating a reward plan Laura makes a chart that includes four weeks of the new study plan. She sits down with Christopher, empathizes with his frustration about the spelling assignments, and explains the reward plan. Christopher initially refuses, but then shows interest in receiving a set of baseball cards weekly and signs on. Making it work After about six weeks, Christopher loses interest in the baseball card reward, and Laura suggests he might work toward something else he has always wanted: a camping trip with his dad. They agree that four weeks of effort could earn the trip. Thursday evenings are now calm, and Christopher seems proud of his ability to master the weekly spelling lists. Laura looks forward to Monday afternoons, when she and Christopher can together smile and add another paper to the quiz collection adorning the fridge. Virginia M. Shiller, PhD, is author of Rewards for Kids! Ready-to-Use Charts & Activities for Positive Parenting (American Psychological Association, 2003). She is a lecturer at the Yale Child Study Center and has a private practice. Visit www.rewardsforkids.com for more information.
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